Being In A Committed Relationship
In order for a relationship to last, it needs both parties to be committed to each other. If you're the only
person who is willing to commit to the relationship, there is no point in being in the relationship. If the person
you love isn't willing to commit in the relationship, you're only going to end up hurt.
Some people go into a relationship with false hopes. For instance, your partner may have led you to believe that
he wants to be in a committed relationship with you. Hearing this makes you so happy because you feel he is the
right one for you. But then a scant week later, he tells you he's changed his mind. A long-term committed
relationship isn't something he really wants at this point in his life but he says he still wants to go out on
dates with you.
You're frustrated and devastated. You start thinking the relationship isn't going to go anywhere. You're only
wasting time. You realize he's not ever going to commit to the relationship.
Being able to commit is something that a lot of people find hard to do. It can be tough when they get into
relationships. There are many reasons some people are unable to commit to a relationship.
For one, some people who are unable to commit may have an emotional issue that is caused by something that
happened in the past. They may have had some bad experiences that they simply can't get over.
These people have a hard time trusting anyone they enter into a new relationship with. They will only be able to
trust if their emotional issue is resolved. Until they deal with whatever bad thing happened to them in the past,
they won't be able to move on and have a meaningful relationship with anyone.
Still, some people don't want to commit for the simple reason that they want to keep their options open. While
they are searching for the right person to come along, they don't mind being in a relationship with someone. While
they are in a relationship, they may be actively looking for potential mates.
It doesn't matter if they are with their partner while they do this. This behavior is reprehensible. It's very
disrespectful. They have no concern about the person they're with because they view the relationship as a mere
"stop over". They're willing to settle for less while they keep looking for something better.
If you want to be in a committed relationship, you'll need to avoid this type of person. If you end up with
someone who is not willing to be in a committed relationship with you, you may just find yourself unhappy and
heartbroken. Sooner or later, you will need to decide if you want to remain in the relationship despite your
partner's unwillingness to commit or if should end things and cut your losses.
Often, the best way to find out where a relationship is headed is to be upfront with your partner from the very
start. Spend a good deal of time with a potential partner before you become seriously involved. Be open and honest.
Let the other person know what you want out of the relationship and you expect from it. How does your partner feel?
When you talk openly about these things from the beginning, you can avoid having false hopes.