What to Do If Your Spouse Wants a Divorce and You Don't
Something people may not realize is that a divorce is often something that only one person wants. It is not
uncommon in couples for one of the spouses to decide that he or she wants a divorce. That is hard for the other
spouse to cope with. You cannot save your marriage by trying to beg your husband to stay with you and work on your
relationship because that doesn’t fix the problems that exist.
Another common misconception is that you can’t stop the divorce if you are the only one who does not want it to
happen. It is possible to start rebuilding your relationship by yourself. The way to do this is to take a good look
at who you are and what you have done to cause problems in the marriage.
Can You Do It Alone?
You may think there is no way that you can stop a divorce if your spouse is dead set on leaving. Marriage
involves two people who are partners. However, if only one wants a divorce, that probably means there has not been
a lot of working together going on in the relationship for some time. When arguments, hurt feelings, and emotional
damage are ignored for a long time, couples may start to live separate lives.
You cannot fix your marriage if you don’t talk about the problems with your spouse. When there is no
communication in a relationship, there is no way to figure out what the problems are and fix them. If you're the
one who wants a divorce but you can’t really explain why you're unhappy, you need to figure it out. If your spouse
wants a divorce, you need to figure out what is making him feel that way.
The first thing you need to do is to start communicating. This is a step you can take to save your marriage by
yourself. You can work on improving what needs to be better about yourself so your spouse will see you are trying
and hopefully stop the divorce. You need to take a good look at yourself to do this so that you can rebuild your
relationship and learn how to communicate. If you change the way you act, you can show your spouse the marriage can
Figuring Out What the Problem Is
If your spouse wants a divorce and you don't, you need to figure out what problems in the marriage are and how
you are involved in them. Are you overly critical of your spouse? Do you always assume the worst about your spouse?
Do you take over the raising of the children and not let your spouse participate? Are you angry because of the way
that your spouse is handling the finances?
After you figure out what the problems are that make your spouse want a divorce, look at how you contribute to
them and what you can do differently. It is a good idea to create goals for you to meet. You can say you will not
automatically criticize your spouse if you don’t like what he is doing; instead you will ask him why he is doing
things that way.
If your spouse wants a divorce and you don't, you need to create goals that focus on you. You cannot assume that
your spouse is going to have the same goals. You need to set goals for yourself and be an example for your spouse
so he can see that things can be better. If you show your spouse that the problems can be fixed, he may be willing
to stop the divorce.
It may take some time but your spouse will eventually see you are not criticizing him and you are treating him
with more respect. This will make him want to communicate with you and that way you two can start working through
Rebuilding Your Relationship
If you choose to work on improving yourself and changing what needs to change to rebuild your marriage, you are
making an unselfish choice. That shows your spouse that there is hope for the relationship. Every positive step you
take towards rebuilding your relationship will help you stop the divorce. You cannot simply put all the blame for
the problems on your spouse and assume you are doing nothing wrong if you want to save your marriage.
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